I received so much good feedback that I thought I would keep going into the subject of overcoming failure. Out of all of my years in ministry, failure is the by far the number one reason that people come up for conversation with me. They want hope that a bad decision or whatever can be rectified for the future. It really does go deep. If the spirit of failure takes root inside of you, it can destroy everything you hope to become. Today we will stop that for good, k? Read Luke 5:1-8 as a refreshing place.
6. Past Failures Do Not Mean Future Ones.
Yes, you may have failed at something in the past, but that doesn’t mean you will fail again. Even if it’s an attempt at something you’ve never tried, keep in mind the old adage “nothing ventured, nothing gained”. If you fail you can say at least you took that chance; if you never even tried, you lose, but it’s worse than failing because you’ll never have made the attempt. Coach John Wooden said “failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.” Keep positive and give it your best shot, because reaching a level of confidence is a definitive measure of success. Go to a mirror right now and say out loud, “I can do anything I put my mind to. I can do it, I can do it, IF I put my mind to it.”
7. Saturate Negative People With Your Absence.
No matter what it is that you are trying to achieve, surround yourself with successful people that have done what you want to do. One of the best ways to overcome failure is to learn how other people just like you overcame failure. Bill Cosby said “I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.” Negative aspects of relationships must be set straight, or the relationship must be cut off. Why dialogue with cancer? If a relationship is cancerous, cut it out! Then, find a person or a group of people who are successful and get around them as soon as possible. It will encourage you to see that others have succeeded. Positive people will complete you, while negative people will compete with you.
8. Take Lessons From Those Who Blew It and Lived To Tell About It.
Reach out and communicate with others who have dealt with the same issue you feel you’ve failed at. See what made them succeed and if they have any tips. If anything, they’ll likely be able to offer some moral support so when the going gets tough, you have some words of wisdom to fall back on. If you don’t know anyone to talk to, get a book on the topic and learn from someone who has been there and done that.
Make a list of all fo the people you can talk with and all of the books you can learn from.
9. Recognize That Failure Is An Elevator To The Next Step.
Failure and mistakes aren’t fun but they are what help us learn to be great at whatever it is we are trying to achieve. “There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure.” – Colin Powell Think back to a time where you succeeded. Then think how many times you failed or made mistakes to get to that success.
10. The Thing You Fear The Most May Be The Direction You Should Go Next.
Take your fears and make them work for you. Use them as the driving force to conquer your hesitations by allowing them in to inspire and motivate you rather than languish within you.
Overcoming fear is one of the biggest obstacles people have with change. Change is intimidating, but much good can come from change, but you’ll never know unless you try. By not letting fear run the show, you can ultimately discover your fears are conquered and you’ll have more confidence when the next big decision or change arrives.