“My life sucks!” “I hate them!” “LMTAEOAFTO!!” (Social media response to drama!)
“I wish I were rich like him!”
“I can preach better than him”
“I wish I looked like her”
“My career isn’t as successful as theirs!”
These are the type of responses that we see every single day as people compare themselves in various ways to others. We forget that emotional reactions can greatly hinder our ability to make effective choices in life. In redesigning our lives, we have to control the responses that we have to life’s arrows shot at us daily. Probably the most dangerous emotions that influence us are anger, bitterness, and envy. Each one corrupts you into viewing circumstances as if they were images in fun-house mirrors, it distorts the view of the ourselves and the world around us.
“For where envy and self-seeking exist, confusion and every evil thing are there.”
You can’t change what happens to you, but you can sure change how you react to what happens to you.
I have been shut down in my growth as a person as I compared myself, my ministry, my house, and my accomplishments based on others. The comparison game will always come up short as you look at them, thinking “if only.”
If only I had that job.
If only I could date her.
If only I had those opportunities.
It’s not that we can’t be successful and have nice things, but if the basic motivation of our hearts is to have what others have and to look like they do, then we end up never learning to make the best decisions based on God’s individual plan.
You are the best you in town! I am the best Brady! Appreciate others and learn from them, but don’t allow somebody else to be the driving force behind the design of life. If we do, it will inevitably get us off of God’s path again, and toward the ditches of self-destruction.